What to Do When You Want to Start… But Don’t Know Where

If you’ve been carrying around the feeling that you want to start something — a business, a project, a next chapter — but every time you sit down to figure it out, your mind goes blank… you’re not alone.

Not confused because you’re incapable. 

Not stuck because you missed your chance. 

Just unsure where to begin.

And that uncertainty can feel heavy.

Especially when it seems like everyone else online already knows what they’re doing.

Here’s something I wish more people would say out loud:

Most people don’t actually know where to start — they just don’t talk about that part.

They talk about their launches. 

Their email lists. 

Their websites. 

Their wins.

But they skip the moment you might be in right now — the quiet, uncomfortable place where you’re still orienting yourself.

And when that part gets skipped, it can make you feel like you’re already behind before you’ve even begun.

You’re not.

The internet is very good at teaching the middle.

It teaches you how to:

• build

• market

• grow

• scale

But it rarely teaches you how to arrive at the beginning.

It doesn’t talk about the uncertainty. 

The hesitation. 

The self-doubt. 

The “I don’t even know what questions to ask yet” stage.

But that stage matters.

It’s not a problem to solve — it’s a place to stand for a moment.

Here’s a gentle truth that might help:

You don’t start by building anything.

You start by noticing.

What you’re drawn to. 

What frustrates you. 

What you keep thinking about when you’re not trying to “figure it out.”

Right now, you’re not meant to have a plan. 

You’re meant to get oriented.

And orientation takes time.

That doesn’t mean you’re failing. 

It means you’re paying attention.

You’re allowed to:

• go slower than the internet suggests

• change your mind

• start without clarity

• take one small step instead of all of them

You don’t need to know where this leads yet.

You just need to trust that the desire to start didn’t come from nowhere.

It came from experience. 

From wisdom. 

From a sense that there’s something more for you.

If this is where you are right now — wanting to begin, but unsure how — I want you to know this:

You don’t have to rush. 

You don’t have to do this alone. 

And you don’t need to have it all figured out to be allowed to begin.

I’ll be here, sharing thoughts, ideas, and gentle guidance for women who are starting their next chapter later — and doing it with intention.

You’re not behind.

You’re just getting oriented.